This article will explore the process of looking for someone to spend their life with after many years, and why it is so hard to find
Years ago, I was in a happy marriage. I had my twin boys and we enjoyed being a family. But then he was killed on duty as a cop. Now I live alone, but not lonely. It’s just been me for about three years now and it’s been good for me.
Last month, I went looking for someone to spend my life with. I looked on the internet, look on sex websites, read books from the library and went to concerts. It seemed like a never-ending task but I kept trying.
Then one evening, almost by accident, I was going through a collection of old letters and found one from a “Marlene”, who wrote about her experience to my late husband many years ago when we were still in school together. It was an old handwritten letter, dated February 7th 1975 that she had kept carefully these many years to “go back” and look at it again when she needed some answers.
It’s funny how things works sometimes. I had dated the letter and wondering where I might find this young woman now. It was like she was trying to tell me something and I had to figure out how to get her message to her. So, some weeks later after a lot of searching, I found her again on my computer and wrote her an email. She wrote back immediately and we started a friendship that keeps growing today.
After just one month of being friends, we both know that God has brought us together for a purpose in our lives. We both realized it at the same time, that we have met someone who knows us so well after so many years apart. We both felt it, now we’re both excited about what the future might hold.
I’m not going to rush anyone into a relationship. I believe God’s timing is perfect, and He has given me one more gift in my life. So I will patiently wait for her to be ready for “more” in our lives. We have a lot of catching up to do and our friendship has grown stronger every day since we found each other again after all these years apart. I know that she believes that everything happens for a reason, and I do too. So we will both continue to believe, and keep looking forward toward a brighter future together.
We have a lot in common that we didn’t even know about. We have so much more to learn about each other and to experience together. I love her so much and she feels the same way. It’s not just a friendship, it’s a friendship with someone who is meant to be with me forever.
For anyone else out there who is looking for someone to spend their life in a relationship with after many years, take heart. You will find her too. It could be some time before you feel it is right, but trust yourself and your instincts.